Setting Goals Want What You Really Want
By Schlarbaum Capital Management | October 16, 2008
Article collected by: Janet Schlarbaum
By Tim Whiston
Most of us only focus on goals we believe are realistic, or reasonably within our grasp. But to achieve true success and happiness we must allow ourselves to dream about the things we really want, no matter how big these things might be. This article will help you move past your limitations and focus your energies on your highest goals.
Take just a minute to consider how you want your life to look five years from now. Think about your ideal standard of living.
How much money will you have?
What will you be doing for a living?
Where will you live and what will your home be like?
Will you have a mate or partner, and if so what will he or she be like?
Be as detailed as possible. Visualize every part of your life exactly as you want it to be five years in the future.
Once you’re done, review your vision. Are you allowing yourself to see what you truly want, or are you holding back because of the need to be “realistic”?
Here’s an easy way to find out if you’re being fully honest with yourself about what you want from life five years from now. Do the visualization exercise again, only this time pretend you could wave a magic wand and have things exactly the way you want them.
If you had a magic wand there would be no reason to limit your vision, right? So go ahead and see things the way you really want them to be.
If you don’t like the analogy of a magic wand, pretend you have made friends with a multi-billionaire who is willing to cut you a check for any amount so you can fund your dream life. If this were the case you could have pretty much anything imaginable so let go and really dream up your ultimate life.
Odds are your ideal life situation looked considerably different the second time you did the visualization exercise. By default most of us restrict ourselves when we set goals and/or think about how we want life to be; but it only takes a simple exercise to loosen these restrictions and envision the way we truly want things to be.
Another version of this exercise is to imagine how you would make your life if you were god. In this simulation you are able to cast aside any and all limitations because most people think of god as an unlimited being with unlimited power. Give this one a try and think about how you would create your life five years into the future.
Many times when people apply one of the tactics above they are shocked to see just how much they were limiting themselves before. This can be a great eye-opener that will help you remove limitations and restrictions you have been unconsciously living with.
And these exercises need not be used solely for visualizing the distant future. Five years is a great point for visualization, but you can use these liberating techniques for short-term goals as well.
Instead of setting a goal to lose five pounds, why not look at what you really need to lose and go for it? If you honestly need to lose 12 pounds then make this your goal and be confident you can do it.
Instead of wanting to make an extra $200 a month, why not find the figure that really makes you happy? Set your sights for $500, $1,000, or more!
You are the ultimate creator of your own reality. Science has proven that what appears to be the world around you is actually a series of signals and communications taking place within your brain. So there is absolutely no need to hold yourself back from wanting what you really want.
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Career Goal Setting Will Lead You to a Fulfilling and Satisfying Career
By Schlarbaum Capital Management | October 12, 2008
Suggested by: Janet Schlarbaum
By Victor Ghebre
Just the thought of those words may make some of you cringe. But it’s time to step up to the plate and really get into the career game.
If you could change your job situation tomorrow, would you do it? If you said yes you are among the thousands of folks who are unhappy or unfilled in their jobs. Maybe you no longer find satisfaction in your career? You may be looking for a job that better reflects your passions and interests and some of you could be just getting into the job force. Stop fighting it, career goal setting is your answer to figuring out all your career headaches.
The fact of the matter is, if you want to uncover a career that is fulfilling you will need do some introspection. As you do this you’ve got to forget about all social pressures and be open to all possibilities; no matter how far they may be from your current position. And of course write it all down!
One of the first steps in the career goal setting process is to determine exactly what it is that you
want from your career. Remember, the career goal setting process is a journey and having a well thought out plan or map to guide you is crucial. But before you lay down your plan you must first do some research, and in this case the research topic is you. This will involve some soul searching to figure out if you are even in the right field or that the career path you are considering is best suited to your interests and strengths.
Here are a couple things to ponder about: If you could do anything what would you do?
What moments in your life bring you the most joy? Be attune to various issues or topics
that you are passionate about. In this state of introspection, let your mind and imagination
run free. Don’t sensor yourself and don’t discredit or do away with career possibilities that seem
silly or out of the ordinary. Discovering true happiness and satisfaction in your career may take
some time, so be patient and be open to taking different paths to get you to your goal.
Effective goal setting involves knowing exactly where you want to go and why. And while
it is important for you to take inventory of all your interests and skills; you must also pay close
attention passion.
Passion plays an important role in maintaining fulfillment in all aspects of your life including
your career. As you think about your future career situation, take your current skills as well
as your passions into consideration when making a decision. That way you will have a larger selection of
career fields to choose from. If you only consider your skills you end up limiting your options.
Once you’ve focused on your passion, take some time to review your strengths and weaknesses. Literally write them all down (even the things your mom says you’re good at!) If applicable, assess the skills you currently utilize in your job. Friends and colleagues may also offer some interesting insights.
Once you’ve done this self-assessment you will have a more clear and vivid picture of what you as and individual has to offer.
For some of you, a self-assessment may reveal that you do not have the skills and qualifications necessary to pursue the career goals that you are passionate about. As part of the career goal setting process you may now need to develop a plan that will allow you to acquire this qualification.
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The Art of Successful Goal Setting
By Schlarbaum Capital Management | October 10, 2008
Posted by: Janet Schlarbaum
By Trisha Webbe
The key to success is YOU.
Do you know what you want in life?
How do you think that you can be successful if you don’t know what you want to achieve?
Try it with something simple, go to your local supermarket with no idea in your head what you want, do you find it easy to walk straight in and come out with something useful?
It never works for me. If I even dare step into my local M & S Simply Food shop I will undoubtedly come out with way more than I bargained for - I need to have a list!
DREAM IT
Your dreams and aspirations for yourself and others can form part of what you want, but it is up to you to make it happen.
Are your dreams based on reality? Do dreams come true? If you ask Oprah Winfrey, Hilary Clinton, Pete Sampras, Tony Blair, Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods it would be a resounding ‘yes’.
“There is nothing like a dream to create the future.”
Victor Hugo
So what do you do with these dreams?
We have to give them a makeover, we have to design them. We have to give them real life, because we know that sometimes our dreams may not be based in reality.
Think about it, what are your dreams? Write them down. Put them in context. Are they attainable? Do you truly know what that dream looks like? What does it smell like? What will it feel like when you have achieved it? If you had to describe it as a colour what colour is it?
Doesn’t doing this make it seem more real, more possible, more tangible, and more achievable?
DESIGN IT
So what do we need to do to get this show on the road?
Some results oriented goal setting. Lots of people set themselves goals, some achieve them and some don’t. Which category do you fit into? If your desire is to achieve a certain goal and you keep failing to achieve it this is going to lead to dissatisfaction, disappointment, poor performance, stress and in its strongest form depression.
We can accept certain missed opportunities in our lives, but if we have a strong burning desire to do something we want to achieve it 100% of the time.
“Desire is the key to motivation, but its’ the determined commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal, a commitment to excellence, that will enable you to attain the success you seek.”
Michael Jordan
The dream that you have for your life is not going to just magically happen. You have to set interim goals to get you there. These goals may be short, medium or long term. Short term goals are usually goals which are measured in days and weeks, medium term goals would be goals which you measure in months, and long term goals are goals which are normally measured in years.
It doesn’t really matter what you consider to be a short, medium or long term goal as long as you have some and more importantly you have them written down. You are not going to get very far without them. The goals you set yourself are the stepping stones to achieving your dreams.
A useful technique to help you set your goals is a SMART one. Your goals need to be:
Specific
Measurable
Action oriented
Realistic
Timely
Your goals also need to be personal to you. For example if you want to lose weight and get fit one of your goals may look like this:-
I want to lose 6lbs in weight and be able to comfortably run 5km by 1 July, so that I not only look better, but feel more confident.
DO IT
So, what next?
We know that we are the key to our own success. We know that we need to achieve our dreams and be SMART with our goals, but seriously, how is it all going to happen?
We have to implement these plans we have to take action, somehow, somewhere, sometime.
In order to do this you need to be focused and inspired and therefore motivated. If you are to be all of things you need to be clear about what it is you want to achieve, know and have people around you that inspire you (idols, role models, family, friends, the dream itself).
We need to keep our eye on the ball and on the challenges and obstacles you will face on the way, because trust me they will be there!
Preparation is the key. It is much easier to stay on your chosen path when you have anticipated obstacles and interference, eg emergency procedures to evacuate building, planes etc. Where would we be without these.
When we tap into what truly motivates us and what is really important to use we are able to summon up great strength, which we often never thought, we had.
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Goal Setting Formula, Top 3 No Fail Strategies to Achieve Your Goals
By Schlarbaum Capital Management | August 12, 2008
Collected by: Janet Schlarbaum
By Shawn Lim
No matter who you are and where you stay today, if you think deeply, there must be something that you want to achieve in your life right now. Maybe you want to earn more money and quit your boring day job. Maybe you want to lose weight and have slim body. Or maybe you want to have a good relationship with your love one and live a healthy life. These are what I called dreams. And with your dreams written down, they will become goals. The interesting thing is, I’m going to show you exactly how you can achieve your goals as long as you follow through the strategies that I’m going to lie down to you.
The problem with most people is that they do not know what they want in their life. If you do not know what you want to achieve, how can I help you to achieve it? Besides that, even if people know what they want and they do write down their goals, but they are still not achieving them. Why? This is because many people thought that goal setting is just a simple process of writing their goals down and things will come to them automatically. This is not the right way. Therefore, follow through all the strategies below and you will learn how to set empowering goals that keep you going all the time.
1. Write down your goals on a piece of paper, make commitment by signing on that paper to show that you will achieve them, and then paste that paper on somewhere you can see it often. You must do this if you are serious in achieving what you want in your life. You have to constantly remind yourself about your goals so that they will sink into your subconscious mind.
2. Every night before you go to sleep, take 10 minutes to visualize about the feeling of achieving your goals. For instance, if your goal is to drive a luxury car, then imagine that you have bought it and how and where you are going to drive your dream car to. Imagine the smell of your dream car, feel the steering as your turn and feel the soft cushion that you sit on. The key here is to make your visualization as tangible as possible.
3. Take at least 3 action steps toward your goals everyday without stopping. Simply writing down your goals will not bring on the results you want. It is the action that you take that will bring you what you want. Therefore, take at least 3 action steps everyday to make sure that you are moving closer toward your goals each and everyday. Persistency and consistency are very important here.
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5 No-Fail Strategies For Effective Goal Setting
By Schlarbaum Capital Management | June 17, 2008
By: Shawn Lim
It does not matter what goals you set and what goals you want to achieve. The main question here is how to set an effective goal that will drive you into taking action. You should know that the main reason most people fail to achieve their goals is because they are not taking enough action or they simply procrastinate. And why does this happen? It is because the goals that they have set are not effective. That is why you need to learn about effective goal setting.
Before you start to set your goal, there is one thing that you must be clear of. It is the reason for you to achieve your goals. You must know why you want to achieve your goals so much in your life. If your reason is not strong enough, you will never put in 100 percent commitment into taking action and hence you will never achieve it. So make sure that you are cleared with what you want in your life before going on.
Now, you can set all kinds of goals, you can set your goals as you want to be a multi-millionaire, you can even set your goal as that you want to be the president. You can achieve any goals you want in your life, but you must make use of these 5 no-fail strategies for effective goal setting. They are…
1. Your goals must be as specific as possible.
The first thing is of course your goals must be specific. The more specific the better, this is because it will be easier for your mind to come out with strategies and steps to achieve them. If you are not specific, it is hard for you to focus in your goals. For example, if your goal is to make $1,000,000 in just 2 years, do you know that there are tons of strategies you can use to achieve this goal? You can invest in stock market; build your own business, through network marketing and more. So be as specific as possible, this is the most basic step for effective goal setting.
2. Set a deadline for each of your goals.
Second, your goals must have a deadline. A goal without a deadline is not a goal, it is a dream. If you say that you want to be a multi-millionaire, when is it that you are going to achieve that goal? Is it 3 years from now? Is it 10 years from now or is it 20 years from now? A lot of people set goals, but they never set a deadline for their goals, and that is why they did not achieve their goals, simply because they don’t know when they are going to achieve them. Remember, put a deadline every of your goals, if your goals don’t have any deadline, it is not an effective goal setting strategies anymore.
3. Your goals must be achievable.
This is a more to practical step. What kind of goals do you set? If you set a goal like you want to earn $100,000, how are you going to achieve it? Make $100,000 is not something that can be achievable. What I mean here is that, you must include your strategies and plans of how you are going to achieve your goals. To conquer the Chinese market is not something achievable. However, to sponsor 3 Chinese everyday in your business will eventually bring you to your goal, which is to conquer the Chinese market. It is the small step that will bring you to your goals. Therefore, always break down your goals into achievable small steps.
4. Develop momentum by taking at least 3 action steps after setting your goals.
An effective goal setting must include developing momentum towards your goals. A lot of people do not know about this, and a lot of them will not do this even if they knew. You have to create the momentum that keeps you going throughout the whole process until the day you achieve your goals. For instance, if your goal is to make $100,000, then you can take action steps like paying deposit for any wealth courses or seminars and you can buy any wealth books to digest as well. By doing so, you are creating the momentum to keep you going. You need to do this every week, and the best will be everyday. Once your momentum is up, nothing can ever stop you. This is how effect goal setting can help you achieve anything you want in your life.
5. Write down your goals and stick it on the wall where you can see it often.
This is an old school strategy. Write down your goals and stick it on the wall where you can see it often. I believe that you know about this strategy, just that you don’t dare to do it. Many people seem like embarrass to tell everyone about their goals. In fact, it is a great step to tell everyone about what you want to achieve in your life. This is because by doing so, you are putting yourself on the line and you will never forget your goals. The more you are reminded of your goals, the more action you are going to take, and thus, the easier you can achieve your goals. So stick your goals on the wall, talk about them all the time and live with them.
If you are following all these 5 no-fail strategies for effective goal setting, I believe that you will feel better about life and you can achieve anything you want with them. All of these 5 strategies are just steps to follow, they are easy to accomplish if you are committed to your goals.
Like what I have mentioned above, you must find out what you really want in your life before you start setting your goals. Once you are cleared with what you want in your life and you why you want it so much, follow these 5 effective goal setting strategies, and you will achieve the things you desired the most.
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Why Goal Setting Has Not Worked For You
By Schlarbaum Capital Management | May 14, 2008
By: Koz Huseyin
Setting goals is a great way to achieving them! We find only a few percentage of people ever goal set. I am going to make a bold statement that everyone sets goals. However, there are many reasons why goal setting just is not working for you.
Our desires are a key to a successful outcome with our goals. However, the desires that we have can be summarized into a couple of types. These different types of desire can make or break your goal setting efforts.
Often we will chase symbols. We see that nice car, that nice house and we just want it. Perhaps it is to be better than the Jones or you just feel you got to achieve that goal you set yourself.
Achieving any goal is down to the right kind of desire. With the right kind of desire, the seeds come with the fertilizer, and the plant (your set goal) can grow. But, it needs the water. Without water the goal that you have set will never appear.
Conscious desire is that seeking symbols. It is as a child wanting something so bad, and when you finally received it, you wanted something else! This can be thought of as water that is polluted. Often these kinds of desires make goal achievement not possible. The universe, higher power, God, etc always knows your deepest needs and wants, and will only manifest those things which are necessary for your growth.
So, what is the best kind of desire to have, whether you want to achieve financial success, business success, or even a happy life? The desires which come from deep within, those kinds of goals we place on instinct. We just don’t know why we are having that desire. Kind of like the desire is when you have fallen in love with someone. You just have that feeling.
These subconscious desires are great desires to have. When you find them realize that you have gold in your hands. You have a desire which comes from a higher power, God, angels or whatever you want to label that higher power. These kind of desires always come with the necessary resources for there attainment.
When you goal set, these kind of desires can tell you whether you will achieve them or not. Now I am not saying that no conscious desire manifests, they do manifest. Though a simple look at every lottery winner and you will find that even though they attained the conscious desire, it soon vanished as fast as it came in. Often leaving the people one step behind.
You can start living your dreams when you understand the process of goal setting in the right way. Anything you truly desire can come to fruition. All it requires is taking action, as soon as you feel the impulse of that subconscious desire.
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10 Keys To Personal Goal Setting
By Schlarbaum Capital Management | April 3, 2008
By: Steven Gillman
Does personal goal setting work? Many people want things, situations or accomplishments, call these goals, and then are disappointed when they don’t get them. Call desires goals if you want, but just naming your desires sure isn’t effective goal setting. Good goals have some or all of the following:
1. They are specific. “I want to be healthy” is too general. “I want to lose weight and walk three times a week,” is better.
2. They are measurable. How many pounds do you want to lose? How much money do you want to make? How will you know if your relationship is better?
3. They are in writing. There is power in writing down your goals. It makes them more real, and this influences your subconscious mind, especially if you review the goals regularly.
4. They are realistic. Sorry, but even if it is possible that you could become an astronaut, if you’re already 55, you better try for becoming a pilot for now. Unrealistic goals set you up for failure.
5. They have deadlines. You’ll have a new job by when? Setting dates really helps your progress.
6. They become plans. Making a goal into specific steps makes it much more likely. It isn’t overwhelming to take one step at a time.
7. They are motivated. Having the goal for the right reasons is a good start. You should also learn how to re-motivate yourself, and reward yourself when you make progress.
8. They consider personal factors. Can you really get what you want if you feel like you don’t deserve it? Maybe, but good goal setting takes into account personal changes that are necessary or useful.
9. They are followed by action. One of the keys to motivation and to getting where you want to be is to start with any movement towards the goal. Action begets action. Start slow if you must, but start.
10. They are not written in stone. Goals naturally evolve. Why would you become a doctor once you learned that you liked doing lab work better?
The last one is a tough one. An excuse and a change of course are not the same thing, but to know the difference means you need a certain level of self-awareness. Develop that, apply the keys to personal goal setting above, and you’ll get to where you want to be.
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Goal Setting Strategies For the New Season
By Schlarbaum Capital Management | March 24, 2008
By: Randy Brown
Each new season brings a level of freshness and excitement for coaches and players. Along with this excitement comes pressure to succeed by winning games. Coaches face big responsibilities with each new team and must handle pressure that gets out of hand. In this article I will share some ideas and thoughts for the basketball coach as they begin a new campaign.
Expectations and pressure are part of coaching. The wise coach will approach the new year by setting goals. Goals are important by giving the coach team a focus and direction to their efforts. Expectations are laced with pressures to win and exceed previous successes. It is important to avoid predictions that will paint you into a corner. Expectations are tricky to reverse once they are not bet.
I encourage coaches to spend quality time establishing goals for their season. These goals are well thought out and are based on the coach, the players, and the team as a whole. Make sure you set your own coaching goals and share them with your staff and an accountability partner like a mentor. This will help you stay on course because accountability will help you “see” things that need to be challenged that you cannot see.
Set personal and family goals also. These goals of self improvement and enhancing relationships are your most important life focus, no matter how important we think coaching is. goals.
Here are some guidelines to writing goals before the season:
1. Goals must be realistic but written to stretch you and your team a little out of your comfort zone.
2. Write your goals specifically. Instead of aiming for offensive improvement, strive to get the ball to the paint every third possession and get to the foul line a minimum of 15 times a game.
3. Make goals measurable so you can evaluate them. Measure improvement in these areas; a) overall progress by the team, and b) individual player progress, c) specific areas of the game such as defense, offense, and skills.
4. Make your goals time sensitive. By your fifth game you may want to attain a specific level of team play or team defensive results. Use increments of time to gauge all parts of your game. Measuring improvement can be determined by your record but in itself your record can be deceiving. Closely examine your efficiency in specific areas such as turnovers, shooting percentage, and opponent’s transition baskets.
5. Develop a schedule to review and re-adjust your goals. You can’t afford to go an entire season and look at your goals at the end. Set periodic times to check and review each of your goals to stay on task. It is OK to re-write or revise your goals as they will never be perfectly written. Some will be too lofty, some not lofty enough. The key is to realistic, yet always to reaching for more than you have done in the past!
This season take the approach of goal setting to set you and your team on the right path. The benefits will be many and your focus will be on your team and not the expectations of others. Goal setting can be the best motivator in sports if designed and utilized properly.
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